Talking About Adolescent Sexuality

We live in a very sexual world. There are confusing messages about sex everywhere - on the radio, TV, in magazines, movies and music. Sex is used to sell everything from soap to cars.

The risks to sexual behavior can be very high for adolescents struggling to understand their changing bodies and changing feelings. Making good decisions may be hard, but the result of a poor choice can last a lifetime.

Parents play a very important role in helping their children make important personal decisions. However, parents often find it difficult.

The following tips may help:

  • Set good examples
  • Respect their privacy and feelings
  • Give accurate and honest answers
  • Start early
  • Take advantage of teachable moments
  • Reassure them that they are normal
  • Use correct names for sexual organs and behaviors
  • Admit if you do not know the answer
  • Help them learn to set their own limits
  • Be available, be open, initiate conversation
  • Help your child to say “NO”

Resources

Any counseling that improves parent-child communication can be helpful in opening the discussion of difficult topics. Medical professionals, nurse educators, social workers, youth counselors and other youth workers could be consulted. For more specific information, the following resources may be helpful:

For information and treatment on sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s):
Broome County Health Department, 778-2839

For information on reproductive health for male and female adolescents, pregnancy prevention including abstinence, education regarding adolescent sexuality, counseling to improve communication skills:

Planned Parenthood, 723-8306

Support and information for parents of gay, bi-sexual, transgendered young people and support group for gay, bi-sexual and transgendered high school students:

PFLAG, 748-3984

For presentations to adolescent groups or to individual adolescents about AIDS, sexually transmitted infections and reducing the risks of sexual behaviors:
STAP, 798-1706

Information and referrals regarding adolescent pregnancy prevention:
Mothers and Babies Perinatal Network, 772-0517

If you can’t find a service you need, you may call First Call for Help at
729-9100 for a complete listing of services in Broome County.